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what would you do to help if your relative got their kids taken away?

cantthinkofaname asked:


My sister has an alcohol problem and she recently got her 3 kids taken away and she cannot get them back until she completes a rehabilitation program but shes been stalling. I would hate to see the kids to go a group home so I decided to care for them. I also have 2 children of my own (3mnths, 2yr) The only problem is her kids have some major issues and I can see they have been through a lot. It’s very hard for me, I’ve been extremely stressed out and I cannot handle caring for so many kids anymore. I’ve tried to return the children to child services but I want to help my sister get her life back in order but I cant take it anymore. I don’t know what to do. Comments please?

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4 Responses to “what would you do to help if your relative got their kids taken away?”

  1. monica b on April 3rd, 2009 8:47 am

    let them stay with another member of your family

  2. terry on April 6th, 2009 2:09 am

    Find another relation for the kids to stay with and have them when you feel that you are able to have them.Your first priority is to your own kids.

  3. twobeinmd on April 6th, 2009 8:22 pm

    Your sister is fortunate that you are willing to help her out when she’s in a bad situation. Unfortunately, by taking in her children, you have enabled her to continue drinking.

    These children have a father, why isn’t he involved? Are there other members of your family who could help?

    Talk to your sister and set a deadline. Offer to help make arrangements for rehab. Tell her that unless she gets into a program within the set time (like a week, two at the most) the children will have to go back to child services. It’s awful that her children might be put into this situation, but you didn’t create this mess.

    Your first priority and responsibility is to your own children. They shouldn’t have to pay for your sister’s unwillingness to get into a program and save her family. She’ll probably do everything in her power to make you feel guilty. Find a local Al-anon meeting and start attending. They will help you understand the dynamics of an alcoholic personality and support you while you hit your sister with some “tough love.” Believe it or not, one day your sister may thank you!

  4. darkwater d on April 9th, 2009 6:33 am

    Your sisters life is not your life, you can be there for her but don’t feel like you need to step into her shoes and clean up her mess completely. Live your own life, and do what you can to help without it getting in the way of yourself. Don’t forget YOU.